I’m so excited and honored to be in the June/July issue of Sophisticates Hairstyle Guide! They did an exclusive photo shoot with me, my amazing hairstylist Victor Paul (www.victorpaulsalon.com
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We talk all about beauty, my newest venture “The Gretchen Christine Collection”, my favorite pieces from my make-up line “Gretchen Christine”, and all those questions you have been asking about my hair! You guys have been sending in questions forever about my hair and how I get the looks I do on my facebook/twitter and my website, so here is your chance to get those answers! Be sure to pick up your copy in stores Now! Look for me and my Hairstylist - Victor Paul - on the front cover to know it is the correct issue!
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I think it was courageous of Peggy to come out and talk about her postpartum and the issues and struggles she has had with that. I know that is a very sensitive topic and a lot of moms suffer from this. I can only hope by her talking about it, it will encourage a lot of other mothers who are secretly suffering to realize it is OK, it's normal, and you can get past it. We all struggle with something in our lives. The more honest and real we can be about those things, those mistakes, and those tribulations the more we can grow as people and be the best we can be. Some days I wonder if being on this show is worth it, because of all the scrutiny, false press at times, and judgments about the way we choose to live our lives, but then when I receive emails from so many people saying that they can relate to my situation or thanking me for sharing my story because it really helped them, I know it is worth it. I hope this is the case with Peggy's struggle as well.
I think Tamra and Vicki's trip was hilarious and made me laugh a lot. It was fun to see them get along with no backstabbing going on. I'm proud of Vicki for sticking to her guns regarding Tamra stabbing her in the back and saying she was owed an apology. I don’t think Tamra had her back as she always claimed to. That is honestly part of the reason I never trusted Tamra. If she was willing to do the things and say the things she said about her "friends," I knew she was capable of other things with people she didn't like. To be honest Vicki and Tamra's relationship is very confusing to me at times. As an outsider looking in, I don't believe they have the most authentic friendship, however I hope that the "truths" between them can remain true. Unfortunately, Tamra has become transparent to me. She says she has changed and is in a better place and doesn't have time for the fighting anymore. However in previews to come you see her flip out on Jeana and even throw wine in her face, we see he being a "friend" to Alexis' face but saying some pretty harsh things about her marriage behind her back, and now saying things about her desire to start a dress line. Tamra claims she said things and did things because of Simon and the place she was in her marriage, but Simon is gone now and she continues to be that same woman. I continue to see her project all her own issues onto everyone else around her. She tells Alexis that Jim is just like Simon, and that they are headed for divorce, and in this episode we see her encouraging Vicki to flirt with the man in the pool stating, "He is your soulmate," when she is still married to Donn.
I actually really wanted to make amends with Tamra, because I think she is a fun girl, but unfortunately the more I see who she really is, the more I question what value she would bring to me life. I am happy and content in my life right now, I have thriving businesses, an amazing family, meaningful friendships, and a quality relationship with Slade. Unfortunately besides her being just fun, I think I would be signing up for:
1. Talking badly about others
2. A bad influence
3. A backstabbing friendship
No thanks! Check please!
This week you see me continue to struggle with the concept of marriage again. I was engaged and married by 24, divorced by 27, engaged again, then lost Jeff to cancer all by my early 30s. Compared to most, I have been through more struggles by age 31 than most ever have to face in a lifetime.
Let me make sure I am clear about something, because I think I'm getting misunderstood a little on this subject. I am not against marriage at all! I believe in marriage, and I think it works well for a lot of couples. I just don't know if it is for me at this point anymore. I have always been an over achiever my whole life. My parents raised me in a very strict Christian household with lots of expectations, and we were all pushed to be the best we could be at everything we did in life, including marriage. When I failed at that, it really hit me hard. I don't like to fail at anything, let alone something as important as marriage was to me. I believed I would be married for life, not for only two years. I was left with only a lot of heartache and questions. I decided to get back in the saddle with Jeff, and that ended in tragedy as well. My happily ever after didn't happen the way I imagined it would, and so I think it's normal to be a little gun shy. This is part of the reason I really want to take my time before I marry again, if ever.
My parents have been married for forty years, so I had two of the best role models. I think more than anything I was afraid of letting them down when I realized I wasn't happy and needed to get out of my marriage. However I did what was best for me, not for my parents, not for society, not because we spent a lot of money on a wedding. I did it for the right reasons. I do not regret that one bit. All these relationships and trials in my life have been stepping stones to the person I am today. Here is one thing I know for sure, just because society says it's the right way to live, doesn't mean its right for you. Only you know what's right for you, and no one can rob you of that happiness but yourself.
I have chosen my own happiness by being content in love. Slade reminds me so much of Jeff and all the qualities I loved so much about him. He is so encouraging, loving, caring, kind-hearted, unselfish, and everything I didn't even know I needed in my life. Words can never explain the amount of love him and I share. The show sometimes only highlights the bickering or the hot spots between us, but we have so much respect, admiration, and love between us that sometimes we say, "We wonder if everyone else knows what this feels like," as if we have some secret formula that no one has ever been able to feel in a relationship. If you haven't ever felt this way before, you're not in the right relationship, and you're missing out on something amazing.
The experiences in our lives change our opinions on things, and marriage has been one of those things for me. I have seen so many marriages and couples break up. I have seen so many kids, families, and people hurt by divorce. I don't want to ever be complacent or take for granted what I have with someone and feel that I have to stay only because we are married. I want to love him and have him love me because we want too, not because we have too (for the kids, for society, for our church etc). Life is too short not to be happy. Some would argue that two people choosing to stay together forever and never marrying speaks volumes as to why they are together. I know not everyone will agree, and that is OK. I can only speak what my current truth is, which is that I am content being in love and don't feel the need to be married to justify that love.
I don't know if Slade and my future holds marriage, kids, family, or a lifetime together, but I have decided that it is OK not to know. I am content knowing that right now he is my Mr. Right, and until I am in the place where marriage is right for me again, I can just love him the best way I know how.
Alexis gets where I am coming from, because she has been in my position before having been divorced. She gets my hesitancies, and so it is encouraging to have friends who understand and want the best for me. I know she believes in marriage and wants to see me marry Slade, however she is not the kind of friend to encourage me to do something that is not right for me, so I know I will have her support either way!
My father and I talked for a good two hours when we sat down to lunch. My parents are my best friends! I call them about everything, and we are an extremely close family (I have an older sister and younger brother). My parents have my best interest at heart and want what is best for me. We don't always agree, but their advice means a lot to me and I value what they have to say. Even though it may not have looked that way, my father really does like Slade. They talk almost every day and constantly are doing things together like going cycling/mountain biking etc. It is not so much about Slade being the right guy as it is about me making the best decisions for myself. I tend to see the best in everyone and give everyone the benefit of the doubt even to my own detriment. My Dad knows this about me and so he is cautious to make sure that I really understand the situation fully and that I am making the right decisions based off facts and not just love juice! I am very close with my Dad. He and I are a lot alike so he knows how I tick.
I am very saddened that they did now show a very special and emotional moment between my father and I in this conversation, because it was about Jeff and a lot of the reasons my father has concerns for my happiness. My father knew how much Jeff and I loved each other and was present in the room with me when Jeff passed away. He has never seen me in so much pain, and no parent ever wants to see their child in that much pain. He never wanted to see me hurt that way again. He continued that unfortunately he has had to see the other woman on the show say horrible and untrue things about Jeff and my relationship when they never knew the man or us together. This whole thing has been very hard on my parents, because they were close to Jeff and they knew how much we loved each other and how much I went through while he was sick and still struggle with today. They don't want to see me hurt anymore, especially by the women's unfair judgments, by society's judgments, or by the injustices of life.
Unfortunately, he knows that I have fallen in love with a man who has some struggles of his own right now, due to his son
being very sick with cancer. I completely get it, and I don't blame my father for being protective and concerned. However my father is hopeless romantic (don't tell him I told you) and believes that love can conquer all. He sees that Slade treats me well, makes me happy, and is a wonderful father (despite what the press tries to spin). He sees how happy and in love I am again, and that is ultimately what he wants for his little girl.
So for now I think my parents are actually OK with me leasing for a while.
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Look fabulous - OC style! I get asked a lot of questions about my hair and what products I use and I never get to answer them all! I took a breather and answered a few hair and beauty questions with Sophisticates Hairstyle Guide
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Loose and bouncy curls are your signature look, Gretchen. Why do you love them?
To me big loose curls are a great every day style that always makes me feel beautiful. My biggest thing is I love to feel like a girly-girl. Plus, big hair is kind of fun.
What is your favorite hairstyle if you’re headed out for a night on the town?
I really like to do tousled beachy waves; they are a little tighter than my everyday look and a bit more fun. They just make me feel so ready to go paint the town red. With that hair and a cute dress all I want to do is go out and have a really fun night with friends.
What are your top beauty tips?
My number one would be happiness and I know that sounds odd because you’d think you would associate it with something else but honestly I think when you’re happy your true beauty comes out on your face. If you’re not happy you’re never going to look and feel beautiful. It’s also really important to take care of your skin by always washing your face at night and putting on sunscreen.
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1. “I love to always have some sort of lipgloss on and the GCB Lip Plumpers
are my favorite. They plump your lips you and make you feel really sexy.”
2. “I absolutely love ENJOY
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3. “I have a lot of hair and it’s really curly and very thick but I find that Kérastase
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xoxoxo Gretchen Christine
Wow I feel like a lot happened in the episode! So I’m sorry upfront if this blog is long, but lots to discuss and this show is successful because it is based off of having opinions!
I hadn’t seen Alexis since Tamra’s party and I thought it would be a cute way to break the ice wearing a crown. I wanted her to see that I was able to make fun of myself and that maybe I was a little too sensitive to her comment. Unfortunately, they did not show the whole conversation between Alexis and I in my kitchen. We had a very heartfelt conversation and Alexis understood where I was coming from much better once I explained why I took such offense to her comment. We both apologized to each other and then moved on (of course they don’t show any of that)
I was excited to show Alexis my new car! Paul Passero from Newport Coast Auto, helped me find the car I wanted! He got me the best deal and the car had all the bells and whistles! If you are in the market for a new car be sure to call him (949-515-0800) he is awesome and not a pain in the ass like a dealership!
Anyone that reads into my license plate “this is what a princess looks like” can see my dry sense of humor! “Gold-digger”, “Princess” Really? Last time I checked those kinds of girls don’t like to work, and certainly aren’t buying themselves new cars! (haha) If people are going to talk crap on me I might as well have fun with it!
Going shopping with Alexis and Peggy was a lot of fun. However, it was interesting to hear Alexis keep saying in her interviews, “Oh I hope Gretchen doesn’t cause drama” over and over again. It was off base to me because she acts like she hasn’t ever caused drama or been a part of drama in the group? I remember a lot of drama between her and Vicki, and this season with some of the other wives. Life is drama, not matter what! Sometimes you just don’t jive with someone, and that is ok. I think most drama between woman can be silly and ridiculous, however I refuse to be fake or not speak my mind about things, especially when asked a direct question (I.E. Tamra asking me at her party if I thought she was an evil bitch) I just answered honestly. If she didn’t want the answer then don’t ask. If Alexis qualifies me choosing not to be fake and telling someone to their face how I feel and not behind their back as drama, well I just don’t agree.
I was disappointed to see it look like the answer I gave regarding older woman wearing short dresses, was referencing Peggy, I was asked about another housewife in that question and answered about them. You just saw me telling Peggy how cute she looked in that scene, why would I all of sudden have something so negative to say behind her back. It’s just not how I conduct myself. If I thought her skirt was too short, I wouldn’t have complimented her.
I am glad Tamra is out of a bad marriage, however I find it ironic that she is always telling me that “I am such a victim” yet she seems to blame all of her bad behavior towards her friends because of Simon. That sounds like a victim to me. Simon didn’t force her to treat people the way she did or force her to say the things she did. Tamra choose to act that way herself. “Put your big girl pants on and take responsibility for your actions” isn’t that what she was preaching a few weeks ago on WWHL?
So it has become apparent that this season I am going to be shown as only nag to Slade! Slade and I seriously have such a fun relationship because we are constantly teasing each other, that is part of what makes us work! We both have great senses of humor and don’t take too much to heart. However in these past few episodes it has only looked one sided. Believe me Slade dishes it out just as much towards me, and if he isn’t ok with a joke he lets me know, as you will see later this season regarding a issue we have. I DO NOT think Slade is fat, I do however hate to hear someone complain that they are fat all the time and not do anything about it! That is why you see me upset at dinner with him about ordering pasta.
Victor and Robert have become some of our closest friends and we love spending time with them. They own a second home in Palm Springs and it is always great to get away! They are very protective over me because I am like their little sister. They asked me how my relationship was with Tamra and I was telling them where I stood with her at that point. I don’t like to judge people, however I find myself much quicker to judge Tamra and her actions because of all the accusations she made about me. It just is human nature to do so. I didn’t just pull that comment about her “banging Simon’s buddie now” out of the clear blue sky, I made that comment based off this picture (of the 3 of them together) that was sent to me by a friend on twitter (
) Not to mention that Simon himself said that he was friends with Eddie. He stated that Tamra and him had gone on double dates with Eddie and his girlfriend. Just makes me question the authenticity of her saying Simon and Eddie did not know each other and weren’t friends.
I honestly don’t care about any of that, they can do whatever they want, and it ultimately is their business. However, I will forever believe that Tamra was personifying what she was in actuality doing in her own life onto me. Simon filed for divorce stating that she committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity, and all I seem to keep hearing from Tamra is quote unquote “court document don’t lie”? Funny how the tables are turned and now she is singing a different tune. Tamra admitted herself that she was inappropriately texting an old boyfriend while still married. Unfortunately, this really isn’t about judgment, because I think Tamra should be allowed to do whatever she wants, it is more about that “Character” thing that Tamra keeps talking about in regards to me.
And just for the record, I have never blamed Tamra for my mistakes; I have blamed her for talking about things she did not know and for making false accusations.
I know this whole lease program idea seems funny to most, but if you really think about it, if could possible work! Haha I am being more factious than anything about the lease program, but I am trying to make a point. I think sometimes people do get complacent in marriages and the divorce rate is so high now, so why not try to implement a new program into society. My motto is “If things are working, fix it!” I hope one day to want to be married again, but for now I don’t know if I believe in that anymore. I have been let down by it, and want to make sure it is absolutely right before I do it again.
Despite everything I actually like to see that Tamra is happy and in a better place with her love life. I have always wished Tamra nothing but the best, and every person deserves to be happy, however I threw up a little in my mouth seeing her and Eddie basically doing soft porn on camera. I do not feel that we needed to see a sex scene btw the two of them to get across that she is in love. I mean for goodness sakes they both got buck ass naked in front of the camera crew and he got on top of her in the bathtub with ass up! I am not a fan of Simon, but poor Simon having to hear about that or possible see it. How can she in one breathe say she is not introducing the kids to Eddie, and taking it slow, but then in another moment she gets naked with him (practically showing them having sex in a bathtub) and not think that the kids are going to get wind of that? Even if she thinks her kids don’t watch the show, her kid’s parents and friends do and they will be sure to talk about the fact that they saw their mommy naked in the bathtub with another man. Yuck, Yuck, Yuck.
Well that is a lot of information to take in on one episode, I am still looking for a wet napie to get that image out of my brain!
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Till next week,