Life is Drama

Wow I feel like a lot happened in the episode!  So I’m sorry upfront if this blog is long, but lots to discuss and this show is successful because it is based off of having opinions!

  I hadn’t seen Alexis since Tamra’s party and I thought it would be a cute way to break the ice wearing a crown.  I wanted her to see that I was able to make fun of myself and that maybe I was a little too sensitive to her comment.   Unfortunately, they did not show the whole conversation between Alexis and I in my kitchen.  We had a very heartfelt conversation and Alexis understood where I was coming from much better once I explained why I took such offense to her comment.  We both apologized to each other and then moved on (of course they don’t show any of that) 

  I was excited to show Alexis my new car!  Paul Passero from Newport Coast Auto, helped me find the car I wanted! He got me the best deal and the car had all the bells and whistles!  If you are in the market for a new car be sure to call him (949-515-0800) he is awesome and not a pain in the ass like a dealership!  Anyone that reads into my license plate “this is what a princess looks like” can see my dry sense of humor!  “Gold-digger”, “Princess” Really? Last time I checked those kinds of girls don’t like to work, and certainly aren’t buying themselves new cars! (haha) If people are going to talk crap on me I might as well have fun with it!

  Going shopping with Alexis and Peggy was a lot of fun.  However, it was interesting to hear Alexis keep saying in her interviews, “Oh I hope Gretchen doesn’t cause drama” over and over again. It was off base to me because she acts like she hasn’t ever caused drama or been a part of drama in the group?  I remember a lot of drama between her and Vicki, and this season with some of the other wives.  Life is drama, not matter what!  Sometimes you just don’t jive with someone, and that is ok.   I think most drama between woman can be silly and ridiculous, however I refuse to be fake or not speak my mind about things, especially when asked a direct question (I.E. Tamra asking me at her party if I thought she was an evil bitch) I just answered honestly.  If she didn’t want the answer then don’t ask.  If Alexis qualifies me choosing not to be fake and telling someone to their face how  I feel and not behind their back as drama, well I just don’t agree. 

  I was disappointed to see it look like the answer I gave regarding older woman wearing short dresses, was referencing Peggy, I was asked about another housewife in that question and answered about them.   You just saw me telling Peggy how cute she looked in that scene, why would I all of sudden have something so negative to say behind her back.  It’s just not how I conduct myself.  If I thought her skirt was too short, I wouldn’t have complimented her. 

  I am glad Tamra is out of a bad marriage, however I find it ironic that she is always telling me that “I am such a victim” yet she seems to blame all of her bad behavior towards her friends because of Simon.   That sounds like a victim to me. Simon didn’t force her to treat people the way she did or force her to say the things she did. Tamra choose to act that way herself.  “Put your big girl pants on and take responsibility for your actions” isn’t that what she was preaching a few weeks ago on WWHL?

  So it has become apparent that this season I am going to be shown as only nag to Slade!  Slade and I seriously have such a fun relationship because we are constantly teasing each other, that is part of what makes us work! We both have great senses of humor and don’t take too much to heart.  However in these past few episodes it has only looked one sided.  Believe me Slade dishes it out just as much towards me, and if he isn’t ok with a joke he lets me know, as you will see later this season regarding a issue we have.  I DO NOT think Slade is fat, I do however hate to hear someone complain that they are fat all the time and not do anything about it! That is why you see me upset at dinner with him about ordering pasta.

  Victor and Robert have become some of our closest friends and we love spending time with them. They own a second home in Palm Springs and it is always great to get away!  They are very protective over me because I am like their little sister.  They asked me how my relationship was with Tamra and I was telling them where I stood with her at that point.  I don’t like to judge people, however I find myself much quicker to judge Tamra and her actions because of all the accusations she made about me.  It just is human nature to do so.  I didn’t just pull that comment about her “banging Simon’s buddie now” out of the clear blue sky, I made that comment based off this picture (of the 3 of them together) that was sent to me by a friend on twitter ( ) Not to mention that Simon himself said that he was friends with Eddie. He stated that Tamra and him had gone on double dates with Eddie and his girlfriend.  Just makes me question the authenticity of her saying Simon and Eddie did not know each other and weren’t friends. 

  I honestly don’t care about any of that, they can do whatever they want, and it ultimately is their business.   However, I will forever believe that Tamra was personifying what she was in actuality doing in her own life onto me.  Simon filed for divorce stating that she committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity, and all I seem to keep hearing from Tamra is quote unquote  “court document don’t lie”?  Funny how the tables are turned and now she is singing a different tune.  Tamra admitted herself that she was inappropriately texting an old boyfriend while still married.  Unfortunately, this really isn’t about judgment, because I think Tamra should be allowed to do whatever she wants, it is more about that “Character” thing that Tamra keeps talking about in regards to me. 

  And just for the record, I have never blamed Tamra for my mistakes; I have blamed her for talking about things she did not know and for making false accusations.  

  I know this whole lease program idea seems funny to most, but if you really think about it, if could possible work! Haha  I am being more factious than anything about the lease program, but I am trying to make a point.  I think sometimes people do get complacent in marriages and the divorce rate is so high now, so why not try to implement a new program into society.  My motto is “If things are working, fix it!”  I hope one day to want to be married again, but for now I don’t know if I believe in that anymore. I have been let down by it, and want to make sure it is absolutely right before I do it again.

  Despite everything I actually like to see that Tamra is happy and in a better place with her love life. I have always wished Tamra nothing but the best, and every person deserves to be happy, however I threw up a little in my mouth seeing her and Eddie basically doing soft porn on camera.  I do not feel that we needed to see a sex scene btw the two of them to get across that she is in love.  I mean for goodness sakes they both got buck ass naked in front of the camera crew and he got on top of her in the bathtub with ass up!  I am not a fan of Simon, but poor Simon having to hear about that or possible see it.  How can she in one breathe say she is not introducing the kids to Eddie, and taking it slow, but then in another moment she gets naked with him (practically showing them having sex in a bathtub) and not think that the kids are going to get wind of that?   Even if she thinks her kids don’t watch the show, her kid’s parents and friends do and they will be sure to talk about the fact that they saw their mommy naked in the bathtub with another man.  Yuck, Yuck, Yuck.

  Well that is a lot of information to take in on one episode, I am still looking for a wet napie to get that image out of my brain!

  Can’t wait to hear from you guys through  my , @gretchenrossi on twitter, or my personal website about this episode.

  Till next week,

  Gretchen Christine
March 27, 2011 7:25 PM Shnik Says:

I totally realized in last weeks scene on your way to Palm Springs you were eating a taco from Jack in the Crack (Jack in the Box ; ) ) I love those tacos (now whether its real meat or not is questionable but its still a nice treat) ! Anywhoo I had to laugh out loud when I saw that and I thought "wow she really is normal" ! Take care!

March 27, 2011 3:09 AM CherylBRayner Says:

Let me start by asking "Do you really have time to read all these blogs?" I agree with alot of what everyone else has said: Tamara is truly unhappy has been for a very long time and is just extremely jealous of you, your work, your relationship w Slade and lets not forget your age! She has shown her true self so many times. I find it in horrible character of both her and Vicki when they purposely tried to get you so drunk so they could get you to do something you wouldn't have normally done without any regards to your safety. She is also really starting this season off with a"BANG" LOL I think the tub seen was way over the top and noone will be surprised when Eddie is done with her. As far as Alexis is concerned I don't think anyone is buying her God first, Husband second routine. It's quite clear that Jim emotionally abuses her and the children, it's sad that there are viewers who will believe that christianity is what their betraying. Stay true to yourself and know that everyone sees what a good, genuine person you are! Your smile is infectious Gretchen Smiley would fit you perfectly! PS I totally disagree with the person who blogged about you not being in love w Slade! I totally don't get that at all :)

March 24, 2011 7:48 PM Eric Says:

Hi Gretchen. How is Slade's son doing?

March 24, 2011 2:06 PM veronica Says:

Hi GRETCHEN i have followed the show since day one and let me say that im FINALLY happy that your now not taking the crap from those two btichs. TAMRA n VICKY are the most horrible ppl in this world. Im happy that now ur not allowing them to gang up on u, im glad that u speak up now and that u dont take there crap anymore. I hate TAMRA n VICKY for actinmg like teeneager when they are soo freaking old.Tamra looks rediculous w that new "bf" which he looks like a gay chipmunk!!!!! hahaha. Gretchen ur the most beautifull girl on the show and im one of ur biggest fans and im glad that u have the balls now to put those 2 attention whores in there place, Please keep up the good work and dont listen to hatter,, love ya girl

March 23, 2011 3:28 PM peg Says:

i too am tired of hearing people on the show making comments about slade. you two have been together for quite some time now and it seems to be going really well. and as far as vickies comments about him dating all the oc wives...uh they werent married when he was seeing them and you dont hear him being nasty behind thier backs. he had relationships with them before you and they didnt work out so those people should drop it. if he makes you happy and you make him happy that should be good enough for everyone. love your honesty, sense of humor...and you are as beautiful inside as you are on the outside...:):)

March 23, 2011 1:48 PM Diana Says:

Gretchen, I love that you're so honest, your sense of humor, the giggly laugh, and keeping it real because life get better when you are truly yourself! :)

March 23, 2011 1:02 PM Greta Says:

This season is going to be interesting! Good to hear the real stories behind editing, and how they make a situation to be something it is not. Thanks for always clarifying and staying HONEST and true!! However, I am still confused about your "lease" idea... Isn't it the same as dating?

March 23, 2011 11:13 AM Christina Says:

Gretchen you were so funny on Sunday nights episode. You make me laugh. You are my favorite and I agree with what some of the other people have said. I think they are jealous of you. You seem to be a very strong person and always upbeat. You have a great sense of humor and between answering the door with your tiara, the Jesus Lane comment and the lease comment you had me rolling. You are right. Tamra asked you a question and you were truthful if you hadn't of been then you would of been dishonest. Why not just get it all out in the open and upfront and avoid speculation. I get so sick of them talking about you and Slade. As long as you are happy that is all that should matter. Usually when people are that negative about someone they are using having problems of their own. Keep your chin up and keep smiling.

March 23, 2011 11:05 AM ann Says:

You have to check out the this article about Tamara at from 3/21. In slow motion you can see Tamara's nipple from the bath scene, but as she says her kids will never see it. It is plastered all over the web.

March 23, 2011 9:43 AM Sharon Says:

I'm so glad to read your blog. One of my favorite shows is RHOC and last season I thought what the other women did to you and acted was horrible. I'm glad to have the chance to read your blog and understand what really happened. I can tell you are in a happier place now and I love that you are a working woman. You are my favorite housewife and I subscribe to your tweets because to me you are beautiful, fun and you'd be the type of friend I'd like to have because you speak your mind. I think Tamara is very lost and extremely jealous of you. She wants to be you and the only way to do that is by putting you down....I know...I have to deal with that at work every day. I hope you continue to tell us the real story behind the episodes because I wasn't sure what to think with the way Bravo cut the scene's. I know now that they are gearing these shows to drum up drama and not tell the entire story. Love ya still are my role model!!

March 23, 2011 9:05 AM Tara Says:

Tamra = can dish it but can't take it. She is so jealous of you it's pathetic to watch!

March 23, 2011 8:12 AM laura Says:


March 23, 2011 6:21 AM Dawn Says:

Applause Applause, Gretchen. This is the most honest blog post regarding the situation. Tamra refuses to admit guilt in anything, and you have no shame admitting your faults. On Tamra's FB page - not only does she encourage bashing of you, she comments on 'fan's posts and even said, "Tamra Barney- I have seen worse of her on the internet with least I have a hot guy and not an electrical plug like her....just saying!" She can't seem to let it go. Just sad. Nice job on the blog and classy job on your Facebook by not feeding into any unnecessary drama 'fans' try to start up.

March 23, 2011 5:53 AM Bob Says:

For me, I would never want my life to be reality TV, but if someone does choose to be "The TrumanShow" I can understand it. I think Tamera made a mistake. There's a lot of money to be made to be made in the entertainment industry. How long do you think it will take before the UNCUT version of the tub sex will show up on the net? When it does Tamera will be pissed, and THEN it will be, "My Children", but then it's too late.. She should have been thinking of her children before she had sex on Nat'l TV. Let not forget she left herself open for a chrge of unfit mother, by her ex, to take away her children. Welcome to Reality.......TV.

March 23, 2011 4:36 AM Michelle Says:

Hello Gretchen, I envy you for being the women you are. You lay it on the line straight and don't put on a front for the cameras. Tamra is only trying to be friends because she is alone and now realizes all the bridges she burned with her miserable comments. Stick with your guns girl and don't except anything less than an apology for her behavior in the past. It's really great how karma works, the nasty comments and rumors she put out there are coming back to haunt her now. Isn't it funny how people tend to contradict themselves? You and Slade are a beautiful couple and I wish nothing but the best for you both. Can't wait to see next weeks episode.

March 22, 2011 11:59 PM Kim Says:

Gretchen, We love watching you on the show. You are so funny and down to earth. Bravo needs to give you your own show. Thanks for being real.

March 22, 2011 9:52 PM TinaLV Says:

I absolutely love you. U never take crap from anyone and it was very hard and hurtful to hear the things Tamara did say. And YES it was TOO MUCH for tamra and Eddie's whole bathtub scene. I literally had to fast forward the dvr! Lol how fast times change. Tamra and others should never judge anyone until you've walked in their shoes. Now that Tamra's single she's living a life that she use to judge Gretchen about. Much love Gretchen and keep your head up. My mothers a breast cancer survivor and I feel very lucky and blessed to still have her here with me. RIP Jeff.

March 22, 2011 7:44 PM Mercury Says:

Gretchen, i know you dont know me but i am VERY proud of you. More people , especially women, need to know when to stick up for themselves. I mean, dont go out and cause drama but dont stand by and let the drama causers walk all over you. you seem to be one of the few ladies on any housewife show that does not suffer from a high school ailment known as "mean girl syndrome" and i give you major kudos for that. Keep up the great work, stand tall, and have fun with Slade..... f**k all the nay sayers

March 22, 2011 7:10 PM Trish Says:

the other housewives should take a page from your book of life. Your beautiful inside and out. Good sense of humor, a gal putting herself out there in life. Successful in business and still find time to have a relationship. I say Bravo that the ladies open a door into lives, but most of the time they just come off as the worse example of how women love to knock each other down. Did they miss the memo women should be each other's biggest cheerleaders. Tamra is not even worth watching! Stopped watching her on the show after she set you up to get drunk at her dinner party. She showed her true colors! Keep being you!!

March 22, 2011 6:32 PM Your Says:

Thank you for the signed photo a few weeks back on our plane ride to LA my wife loved it.


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